Dear Unavailable Men,

Did you know that you are ruining me?  You are.  You are ruining me and every girl like me who is vulnerable and just wants to feel beautiful and special and important.  And the frustrating thing is that you don’t even seem to realize it.

You put on the charm, smile, and say all the right words.  You tell us how beautiful we are, how smart we are, how perfect everything about us it.  You let the tension and the chemistry grow.  You let our attraction grow.

But we know that we can’t have you.  You know that we can’t have you.  Yet you keep letting chemistry and tension grow.  You leave it all up to us.  You make us the bad guys by leaving it in our hands to make sure things don’t go too far. You leave us to feel shitty by leaving us to wrestle with how to tell you “This has to stop…” before it goes to far and we start feeling shitty because we are then the other woman.

It sucks.  It sucks because honestly, sometimes there is part of us that just wants to kiss you.  Sometimes there is a part of us that just wants to not care… that just wants to be irresponsible and think with our bodies and not our mind, heart, and conscience.

But we know better.  We know better than to ruin you and your relationship and we know better than to ruin all that is good within us.

How, you may ask, does this all ruin us?  Because it makes us insecure.  It makes us unable to trust any man.  How so?  Because after so long, it starts to seem like all men will choose somebody else over us.  It makes us feel like we will never be the only one.  And that just sucks.

So please, for once, just take responsibility and realize that YOU are the one in the relationship.  Realize that YOU are the one who made the commitment to be exclusive with somebody.  Realize that exclusive means you AREN’T involved with anyone else.  And realize that YOU should be the one stopping things before they even get to the point where we should start to feel bad about it all.  Because you can’t have your cake and eat it too, and it isn’t fair of you to ruin us for ourselves or any of the faithful men out there who are truly looking for that ONE SPECIAL WOMAN.

Sincerely,
Frustrated Single Women